Learn > Connect > Do — The Fringe Networking Event for SME HR People

HR Em:

This is going to be a great event, thanks to Helen Amery and #TeamFringe!

Originally posted on People-ology:

Are you going to the CIPD L&D Show for Day 1 (13th May)?  (*look at the end of the post if you’ve not booked yet)

Are you in-house HR or L&D for a small to medium organisation?

Do you sometimes feel like all the speakers at conferences work for big business and corporate?

And do you sometimes leave an event with a head full of stuff, unsure what to do with it next and wishing you had someone to bounce some ideas around with?

Then this is for you!


The CIPD have made huge progress over the last 12 months, bringing in more speakers from SMEs, not for profits and charities. But there are still a lot of big names on the agenda, who definitely do great stuff, but it can be hard – and sometimes not entirely relevant – to transfer what they do into smaller…

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No crying in the toilet!

I read an article recently about how people (ok women) can keep their emotions in check at work. Basically how not to cry at work, for women.  One of the tips was to take it to the toilet, if you’re going to cry, just make sure no one sees you.

But I say NO to crying in the toilet!

I am standing up for all the blubbers like me out there. I have cried at work – when frustrated, in interviews ( mostly when being interviewed), when angry… I can face a room full of trade union colleagues scrutinising sheets of my statistics with a fine tooth comb, I can be questioned by a hostile solicitor in a tribunal BUT I crumble in front of three lovely people asking me questions and only wishing me well.  All they want to know is how I  make sure appraisals are aligned to organisational objectives.
Why cry?
I have done it in front of people, do they think I am weaker? That I am not good at my job? I got one job after crying at the interview, another job I didn’t get. I’m assured that throught the tears I gave good answers and that had nothing to do with why I didn’t get the job.  They were very kind.
Here’s a couple of things I’ve learnt from my own crying in the workplace –
At times I have been overly worried about what people thought – I was doing things that I thought I ‘should’ do, how I thought I should do them.  Not doing things in a way that felt right to me – I wasn’t being myself and that is stressful.
Most recently I was applying for a job I didn’t have any recent experience of, it didn’t feel right – why did I apply? I didn’t want people to think I wasn’t interested, that I wasn’t committed. I ignored my gut feeling.
I believed that work had to be hard, really really hard,  otherwise why would anyone pay you for it? I’ve learnt that working on what you are good at and amplifying your awesomeness makes life much less stressful than working on the gaps & focussing on the deficiencies,  except where absolutely necessary.
Learn to say no when things aren’t right.  Don’t qualify it, don’t apologise.
Surely we don’t want to ban emotion in the workplace?  We want people to engage, be brand ambassadors. To do that we need them to feel.  If people are crying lets not cover it up, it’s a sign we need to change something – whether it’s yourself or the culture around you.
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Top 50 Shades of Grey of valentines day

We don’t really do valentines day in our house.  Mr HR Em works in the restaurant business – apparently he’s a bit busy at this time of year.  So instead I’m off to see 50 Shades of Grey with the HR Em Director of Procurement & Sailing.

However, I am a bit worried. I did read an alarming blog earlier in the week warning of the danger of grievances, or worse, arising from discussing 50 Shades of Grey in the workplace. Now, I haven’t read the book and I’ve stayed away from the publicity so as not to spoil the film.  I am a bit confused about how a film about interior design might land me in trouble in the office.

Apparently it’s quite steamy, maybe they have to take the wallpaper off before deciding on which shade of grey they are going to use.

I’ll let you know when I’ve seen it, just don’t mention it in the office.

Christian Grey

Christian Grey

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Funny rumblings in Social Media

I’ve blogged over at theHRDirector!  http://www.thehrdirector.com/blog/funny-rumblings-social-media/

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Out of Coffice

I’m supposed to be on a digital detox, it turns out I’m not very good at it.  I started this because pretty soon I will be somewhere with, pretty much, no internet connect and no WiFi.  NO WIFI.

I’ve got 5 twitter accounts for different things, which I nurture with varying success! Sometimes they leak into each other by accident, which can be embarrassing.  But hey, who doesn’t love a cute cat picture from #CatFriday or (new this week) #Caturday.

I’ve got my personal Facebook account, a Facebook page and am member of various groups.

I’ve got four email accounts – not bad for someone who doesn’t ‘do’ email.

I’m not even counting – yammer, pinterest, google+, linkedIn & a Linkedin group.  I’m pretty sure I’ve got a Vine and an instagram account lurking somewhere.

Then there’s my employer’s internal online social networks too.

And a partridge in a pear tree.

Oh and You Tube, I nearly forgot You Tube…

Basically I think in blogs, posts and tweets.

I’m not saying this to show off, I know there are people with more than me!  It’s just a reflection that since having virtually no digital footprint four years ago to now, I was actually quite surprised when I added it all up.

So what?

Well, I stated my intention to do a ‘digital detox’ partly so that I would stick to it and then it started feeling like I was saying to all my friends – I’m sorry, but you’re cluttering my brain up, I’m not speaking to you! Which is just a bit rude and not true.

I also wanted a way of saying I wouldn’t be online, without telling burglars to come and help themselves, A social ‘Out of Coffice’. (Don’t, there are people in my house while I am in the place with no WiFi and a big dog.)

The idea of the ‘digital detox’ just serves the argument that being online, social,  is bad for you and I don’t agree with that. It gives fuel to the people who just don’t agree with Social Media.

What I do agree with is that sometimes it can be difficult to juggle it all, even with Hootsuite. The other thing is that given that a lot of my work is to encourage other people to get involved* – what does it say to them. No wonder they look at me like I’m a crazy woman when I try to persuade them that this stuff actually makes their life easier!

Arianna Huffington describes her life just before she collapsed with exhaustion “The space, the gaps, the pauses, that allow us to regenerate and recharge – had all but disappeared in my own life”.  I don’t have a media empire and I don’t know anyone who does.  I’m not about to collapse with exhaustion,  but I will be thinking about how to help people to navigate all this better when they are already overwhelmed with email, so that it does actually add something worthwhile to their days.

So consider this my ‘Out of Coffice’ message.  Emma can’t answer your blog, post or tweet right now.

When I get back I’ll be putting many more pauses back into my day – I think it will be better for everyone.

(*My other mission is to encourage use of the work ‘Awesome’)

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Shoulda, woulda, coulda…

Well, it’s that time of year and I might be slow off the mark but I can’t help but write a topical blog on resolutions!

Setting goals can be a surprisingly emotive thing I reckon, for me it really sets my inner critic (lets call her Penny) loose. She’s got my best interests at heart, wanting to keep me safe. Penny starts sentences with words like –

• You should…
• You must….
• If only…

So not helping.

In my head I am rubbish at running and in real life too. This is not false modesty, I really am crap. I’m slower than a herd of turtles stampeding through peanut butter. However, it turns out that what I am pretty awesome at is getting out of the house for 30 minutes, getting some fresh air and some space to think – whilst putting one foot in front of the other wearing dodgy running kit.

For so many year’s I’ve stopped and started running because I haven’t really been specific about what I wanted to achieve. I thought I wanted to run a 5k for charity, probably because that’s what people do. But it’s never motivated me, only making me feel more gloomy and giving Penny more ammunition to say things like –

• You should run faster…
• Why can’t you run 10k…
• If only Stella McCartney did running kit in size 16 you would be better… (what do you mean she does?)

It was only when I realised what motivated me that I was able to tailor my goals for me and so instead of run 5K by June it became – Create space in my day, get outside and move around a bit.

My measurements of success then became more approprate. Out with ‘Run 5k in 20 minutes’ It becomes ‘I will not leave more than three days between 30 minute runs’.

This is much more realistic given my lifestyle (hectic, natch, working on that!). I also set mysefl chunks of time, 20 days, in which I really focus on making my goal happen. At the end of the 20 days I reflect, learn, tweak (not twerk) and I have a little celebration.

And, no, Penny is not invited.

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Merry Christmas!

I’m going to be logging out soon and having a digital free holiday until the new year!  Thanks so much for reading and for all your comments. I’m looking forward to the new year and having lots to share and learn about my ongoing adventures as a HR person in social media! I’m especially exctied to bringing some chums along with me in 2015, keep an eye out for them.  I know you will welcome them as much as you have me :-)

Until then – have a peaceful Christmas and an outrageous new year!

Not many people realise how much Rudolph loves a #HRblog

Not many people realise how much Rudolph loves a #HRblog

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